It’s no secret that lingerie can be sexually appealing and have an effect on romantic partners, sometimes even more so than being naked, right? ;). But a lot of lingerie-wearers like to do not fancy undergarments purely for themselves, without any partner in mind, which, in my opinion is not the case :) Why? Read further ;)
Lingerie and sexy underwear have been historically viewed as being for the partner’s benefit only (true) but we are in a time when women are empowering themselves too and we can wear it whenever we want for how we want to feel in that day and moment ;).
Of course, not everyone is a fancy lingerie fan, and there is limited empirical research on the psychological associations with our most intimate garments. But anecdotal findings suggest many people get a mental health boost from wearing nice lingerie in everyday life, even when they aren’t sexually active.
In my opinion nice lingerie doesn’t have to be super lacy or overtly sexy to make its wearer feel empowered, are you with me on this one? :) Also, why exactly would wearing nice underwear affect our mental health? ...Here are some reasons why.
1. Wearing nice lingerie boost my confidence
Wearing nice quality underwear or lingerie sets boost on confidence and self-esteem, even if no one sees it (yes it does - you should try it, trust me :)). Feeling confident can make you appear more physically attractive because we tend to stand, walk, speak and gesticulate differently too.
Beside, wearing lingerie can also evoke feelings of femininity, sexual liberation and power. And the idea of wearing a nice or sexy lingerie for yourself can actually have a really positive effects on our emotional state too. Remember, if you associate confidence, strength, attractiveness or anything else with the specific lingerie, you will even start feeling a bit more like that when you wear it (no doubt).
2. Wearing nice lingerie provides me with the freedom to express my personal identity
My social identity is directed toward an external world, whereas my personal identity is directed toward how I feel about myself. Undergarments also provide the opportunity to express your inner desires and instincts, free from any concerns about judgment or interference from others.
3. Wearing a nice lingerie to me is like a form of self-care
I think there’s a level of self-care and self-love that goes into buying nice underwear or lingerie, especially when no one else might see because they are literally only doing it for themselves. Anything we do to make ourselves feel taken care of or loved can be self-care. When we take the extra step of buying nicer underwear for example, wearing them can feel like we are taking care of ourselves in a way. Whether the undies are sexy or just an upgrade in quality and feel from what you’re used to, you’re giving yourself some love by buying and also putting them on.
4. It can offer an escape
Sometimes it’s enjoyable to play around with our own style, experiment with new looks we never considered or even cosplay as a completely different person. This approach can also apply to more private garments, like our underwear :).
5. You get a sense of control
Wearing high-quality lingerie under your clothes can also create a sense of power and control.
If you ever feel like you are being told what to put on your body when you go outside, remember you can always feel free and in control with your lingerie.
6. You may feel inspired to dress nicely on the outside, too
For some women, and me, wearing a base layer of nice lingerie inspire me to put effort into my visible clothing, too, which can boost my confidence further. No doubt, dressing up can improve your mood. It is part of what I call ‘mood enhancement dress theory’, where you can optimise or elevate your mood when you’re feeling anxious or down or undesirable by dressing up. And wearing nice lingerie may motivate you to even wear something a step above sweats to further optimise your mood - Win-win, no? ;)
Now go and put those nice lingerie panties on and take the world with a full spoon ;)
Until next time, S.
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