But first, let's clarify the definition of the 'Goddess'
'A female God or Deity. A woman of extraordinary beauty and charm. A greatly admired or adored woman.'
From this definition, I can gather that what makes a woman a goddess is a woman who adds real value to people’s lives, and she is also someone whom others look up to. So how to be a goddess? From my point of view, there are four main aspects of what makes a woman a goddess;
- Feminine energy (first and the most important out of all).
- Personal charisma.
- Your presence (it's all about energy and true 'you').
- Leadership.
But, let’s take a closer look at what these four aspects of ‘how to be a goddess’ are, ok?
1. Feminine energy
Your looks fade. All our looks fade, no matter how beautiful we are. So the first way to show feminine energy is through how you show up (yes, trust me and this sure does take some effort!!). Also, through your feminine appearance, but it is not on par with the first way. It is a secondary consideration, because anyone can dress feminine and lovely, but often the well dressed women are not the most feminine goddesses (that's for sure). Just like, how the most masculine looking men on the outside (tall and/or imposing/ good muscle tone, macho gait, etc), aren’t always the most high achieving, high value men. You must agree with me on this one, right?! However, both matter, but prioritise cultivating deep feminine energy within your body and soul first (do you hear me? Body and soul!!).
To me, it is important to shine your feminine as well from the inside and outside. But how?
Expressing feminine from the inside can be quite different to the one from the outside.
When you want to express feminine from the inside, you should,
- Focus on allowing yourself to feel more, however thinking is important too, but it’s often just a way to avoid feelings.
- Notice the pleasure and pain in your body and show it (do not be afraid to show it).
- Exercise daily (very important aspect and it does improve your physical and cognitive development).
- Relinquish your rules. Rules will ruin your feminine energy (remember this!!).
- Always do everything with grace and passion! If you’re dull, unemotional and invulnerable, it cancels out any other efforts you make!
But when you want to express feminine from the outside, you should;
- Pay attention to your hair (yes hair)!! I can’t stress enough how much a strong mane of hair helps. It needs to be healthy and well taken care of. Health is everything and it shows through your skin and hair the fastest. Feminine women do not find taking care of their hair a chore. They revel in the femininity and beauty that their hair gives them. Also brush your hair regularly and condition it. See this post for more information on conditioning your hair (i sure read my blog post on that ;)).
- Taking really good care of your skin. Drinking lots and lots of water and hydrate your body well. (remember, if you’re thirsty, you’re already dehydrated!). Drink water regularly and avoid getting dehydrated. This will also help you flush out any unwanted toxins in your body and keep your body clean.
- Most real men are attracted to the presence in a woman’s eyes and her smile. Use these to your advantage! Smile more. :) Beside, wearing a nice lipstick helps too (although I more or less use lip balm, but to me it does wonders ;)). To me, nude colours are great, as they look natural and makes you look even more alluring and mysterious because it doesn’t seem like you’re wearing any lipstick ;).
2. Personal charisma
Charisma is a personal quality or spiritual power that gives you influence over others. And, having charisma means that it doesn’t matter what happens to you, or what’s going on in your life, or how easy it is to give up on things, etc, there is always something more inside of you. But, how do you show charisma? Well, consider charisma to be a spiritual quality in your personality. A spiritual quality centred around empathising with others, understanding other people’s pain, and having compassion.The spirit (also) is a vital part of having presence and charisma. The spirit is the part of you that is present, but cannot be seen. And it The represents consciousness, and your spirit transcends any physical beauty and lasts for much longer than you can live. You can wow any audience, and you can wow any man with your charisma, or spiritual quality. And the end of the day - let’s face it, physical beauty fades. But your spirit will not. It doesn’t matter what happens to you on the outside, no one can take away what you embody in your heart and soul. Yes, physical beauty has its value as all young women know, but only so much!!!
3. Your presence
Having presence means your energy is noticeable. It means that when you are with people, especially your man, you put your whole heart and soul in to being with them. Trust me, many of us, due to stress or just due to an inability to offer ourselves emotionally, try to look like we’re present and listening, but then we just look in to space. So be 150% present!!! Always. But again, what is presence? Well, to me, it’s really simple. You offer yourself instead of trying to escape emotionally or push people away. It’s something you give. Presence also means that you can command people’s attention without being boisterous or obnoxious. It means people will turn their heads and listen to you. Not because you’re odd, or offensive, but because you’re amazing. Amazing, do you hear me?! ;)
4. Be the 'leader'
No woman can ever truly be a goddess without being a leader. What this means is that you can’t be arrested by peer pressure or “groupthink” and still be considered a goddess. And why is that?
Because a goddess isn’t an ordinary woman, as we established above already. Simply put, a goddess needs to have her own direction and her own internal compass ( to me, this matters most!!). Beside, no woman can be a goddess if she doesn’t have deep connection to her own gut feelings, intuition and internal compass!! Let's put it this way - often in life, people will lead you to places that aren’t good. Whether that be encouraging you to make bad health decisions, bringing you down to their level, or just wanting you to ‘conform’ for no reason other than for the sake of fitting in. But it is important that you pave your own way, because this is the only way to be extraordinary, but also live an extraordinary life!!
Also, a goddess (going by the definition above), is someone who is greatly admired, among other things. If you are going to be greatly admired, then you will need to have courage. And courage comes through raking responsibility for your decisions and your life path. Remember, when you lead the way, you are showing others the courage that also exists inside of them, all by example.
You must lead people into higher good and not just follow!! (I don’t mean you should go out and start manipulating people ;)), I simply mean that you should be absolutely untouchable in your personal conviction. If you believe in something and you know it to be right, you need to stand up for it. Always stand up and believe in your own abilities!!
'If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.' – Malcolm X.
It doesn’t matter whether you are religious or not, you can still care about more than yourself, still choose to listen to your intuition, and you can still stand for what is right. If you do this through thick and thin, your energy will contribute to nurturing others, making people smarter, happier, more aware and you’ll just make the world a better place. Whatever you believe in, you don’t have to force it upon people to lead them. You just have to have people’s best interests at heart. And trust me, you sure can achieve that if you discover what is possible by giving, rather than holding back. Beside (this one is experienced so many times), the majority of the people you meet in your life will have low standards for themselves, so do not go that way!! To be 'the' leader, you must have the highest standards for yourself. You must not settle for anything less than you can be, do or become. Amen!!
And, the best thing about it, you can be a leader and still be a feminine woman. Leadership doesn’t mean being masculine all the time, leadership simply means that you,
- Inspire people
- Lead people in the right directions
- Become an example of what is good and lead them with positive energy
- Believe even when everyone around you doubts
- Care for others around you
- Never ever give up.
- Follow your dreams with absolute conviction
- Love even when people don’t deserve it
- Give without expecting anything back.
- Seek understanding
- Teach others what you know, and add value even when you feel they are in ‘competition’, and even when you are afraid.
- Give others access to the resources that you have ( and I do have them, if only you are ready to accept them!!)
So on your journey to learning how to be a goddess, remember that this is all about becoming more self-aware. Not being fake or manipulative. You’re bringing out more of yourself and you’re learning to show the traits of a high value, feminine goddess. Again, a truly feminine woman has 'un shakeable' confidence and knows that there is more to her than what is visible.
And remember, never settle for anything less than you can be.
Give and do more than anyone else can possibly do expect of you! And, do it daily.
Exercise, take proper care of yourself and spread some love (to you - and people around you)!!
Until next time, S.
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