It's not uncommon to go through waves of insatiability and apathy when it comes to your sex life, especially as you age. In fact, between the fluctuating hormones raging through your body and the everyday life stressors that put sex on the back-burner, you are bound to experience a loss in libido at some point in your life. If you're looking for ways to increase and enhance your sex drive, you're not alone. Especially in women over 40, a low sex drive means less of a desire to jump in the sheets. But the good news is - a decrease in the desire to get it on is something that can be worked on. Whether it is making changes in your relationship or working on bettering your overall wellbeing - there are plenty of ways to get back on track and boost your libido (trust me ;)). So, below are some of my favourite ways to boost sex drive after 40 and I am positive you will feel like your 'old self' in no time ;).
1. Stop stressing
Let me tell you, stress gets in the way of a lot of things. So keeping your cortisol levels to a minimum will keep wellbeing in check and by this I mean sexual wellbeing too. By finding a way to cope with your heightened levels of anxiety (stress) you can increase your libido and get your sex life back on track.
2. Good night sleep is crucial
From keeping stress levels at bay to getting a mood boost, there are plenty of reasons you should always make sure you are getting enough sleep. Researches found out that women who got more sleep had higher levels of sexual desire. Specifically, for every extra hour of sleep that a woman got, her odds of engaging in sexual activity increased by 14%. Good to know right? :).
3. Avocado and chocolates (my favourite combo) ;).
Eating a well rounded diet is crucial for your health your sex life - remember that! And if there is one food you definitely should not skimp on when it comes to your sex life, it certainly is avocado and chocolates. When it comes to avocado - it is all about the the vitamin B6 in this delectable food that might make it easier for women to 'get in the mood.' ;) While, a piece of chocolate a day keeps the sexual dysfunction away ;) Studies found that those who ate chocolate on a daily basis tended to have higher libidos and better sexual function compared to those who did not indulge in the dessert. Beside, who can say no to a pure dark chocolate? (the one with raspberries in it is my favourite by far, yes ;)).
4. Cup of coffee
Not only that coffee wakes you up, it also gives you energy and boosts your sex drive ;) Yes! So grab a cup or two tomorrow morning, then text your partner to come back from work early ;) Might work ;) Fingers cross!
5. Drink some red wine
Drinking red wine for your libido might sound way too good to be true, however it is one of the very real ways to boost your sex drive. Moderate amount of the antioxidant packed beverage helped increase sexual desire (as well lubrication) and overall sexual function.
6. Feel sexy
Put your favourite dress on, no make up, go with your natural look, embrace your body and pass it on to your partner. There is no other better feeling like that. Be you and you only!
7. Keep your daily exercise and healthy weight on track
Fitting in a daily workout can help you feel better about your body, boost your mood and increase your levels of happiness hormones (and all of these things, in turn, can boost your sex drive, no doubt!). Beside, if you are insecure and you focus on the way your body looks or what your partner is thinking about it during sex, you are not going to be in the mood, Once you keep your weight on track and feel more like yourself, you may even be excited to get naked ;) My advise - find the 'beauty in workouts' with your partner and get sweaty together ;).
8. Kiss and cuddle
When you are feeling frustrated about a low sex drive, it is easy to try and rush into sex simply to make some magic happen. However, do not forget about taking time to get cozy. I am thinking something as simple as a little kissing and cuddling. This sure can strengthen your bond with your partner, especially in those moments when you might feeling tired or tense. Maybe watching Netflix together, cuddle and eat some chocolates ;)
9. Get new experiences in the bedroom
Be open to new new experiences - the more you are open to it - the better your sexual encounters will be. So set the mood, try new things, do some experimentation together, and, most importantly, keep an open mind. Together is always the best :).
10. Schedule time for 'love'
It might feel weird to carve out time for your rendezvous. However, these days in which people are all work and no play, it can be necessary (trust me on that one). Adding time for intimacy to your schedule can get your sex drive back on track, even if that means sending a calendar invite to your hubby with some eggplant emojis in the title - Yes, you should try it out ;)
11. Get comfortable with the idea of having sex
If the idea of having sex and being naked in front of your partner freaks you out, then you need to address your fears. Stress can sure be related to sexual performance and may also interfere with sexual arousal. Find your inner sexy and go with the flow. Do not overthink.
12. Build your relationship outside the bedroom
This one, to me, is one of the most important. Experimenting in between the sheets is important for increasing your sex drive and satisfaction, but so is building your relationship in general. It is a fact that couples who have fun outside the bedroom have more fun in the bedroom too. So, try to remember how much fun it was to spend time together when you first met and recreate some of that excitement :).
Planning a simple date out. only for you two, would be a great start right?
Until next time, S.
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