Let's face is. A strong, sexy and sophisticated woman oozes empowerment and has a healthy sense of self. She is confident, not conceited. And she accepts her flaws and claims her assets!! End.
Ok, this might sound like a fictional character but what if that strong, sexy, sophisticated woman was you? Yes, you. Pause and think. Why not. Why is this still such a 'taboo'?
If you need convincing, perhaps now is the time to develop your most empowering traits.
But how. I will explain from my point of view, down below.
1. You have build a stronger body with exercise (without an excuse)
It is easy to understand how to build your physical strength. You do some cardio and weight lifting, you build muscle and repeat. Before you know it, you're able to run on that treadmill for an hour or do another 10 crunches. Congratulations! You've got a stronger body. All possible, but you won't get a stronger body without making a commitment, consistency - get it!! And yes,
'Feeling stronger has to be a 'must' - a non-negotiable - not just a 'want,’
When something is a 'must' for you, developing physical strength does not fit into your lifestyle, your lifestyle fits around your building strength. And that's the difference.
2. Reclaim your confidence
Confidence could be the greatest side effect that comes from building your physical and mental strength (hear me, IN and OUT).!! But if you need an ego boost, heed these words of wisdom;
- Believe in yourself and the unique value and contribution you bring
to the world.
- Take care of yourself and appreciate all that you have physically, mentally and spiritually. (this is what 'sexy' is to me. Appreciate and value yourself above all!! Beside, it is also very important to;
- Not care so much about what other people think. And finding that balance between being a 'social being' and 'being yourself'
- Surround yourself with positive people only
- Learn to listen to yourself. Only rely on to yourself. Just go ahead and trust your intuition and 'that little inner voice' that says, you can do this!! Self love, self worth and self respect are the key components here. Try to remember this!!
3. Conquer your negative thoughts
If 'strength stealers' threaten to bring you down, always fight back. Just 'stop listening to your critic', that negative voice inside you (this sure is a killer), the little person sitting on your shoulder that wants to drag you down, If you find it is impossible to tune out your inner pessimist, just don't hesitate to seek help. You sure need to go to therapy, just find someone who can help you sort out the corrosive thoughts that can leave you feeling weak. And yes, just do not pass that to others. If your level of confidence is low, let others have and embrace their highest confidence. Do not be bully!!! (ffs, many times I see this!!).
4. Be selfish in order to be selfless
Your strong, sexy, sophisticated self understands the value of enjoying the things you love to do. Go and do things you enjoy doing, workout, write, create your own journal, etc. Just become someone who learned that nurturing yourself helps you to be at your greatest. It all starts with selfishness, oddly enough, yes.
'Know what's for you so you can be your best self for others.'
Even the most self-assured of us can feel like we're stuck in a rut every now and then. Reflecting on your needs could be the first step you take to realise a stronger, sexier and more confident you.
5. Go for a walk
Sure, walking can improve your agility but it can also be mentally healing. It allows you to clear your mind and slow the world down, So even if you have only half and hours to spare, I advise you to set aside some time for a good walk. It's so easy to do and it doesn't require much skill. I like to go for a bike ride around my neighbourhood too. It is really fulfilling.
6. Be a sexier you
Just as confidence is a side effect of strength, sexiness develops from confidence. If you've been out of sorts with your sexy side, try one of the following suggestions:
- Exercise and eat right. Sexiness starts with taking good care of yourself (and let me be honest, the judge-iest people are the ones in their highest comfort zone. Those are the people you should avoid and not pay attention to them at all. You know better!!).
- Exercise in front of the mirror. It is a great way to embrace your body movements, understand the energy you create while having fun, getting in shape and fully be in touch with your sexy side too.
- Indulge your curiosity. Simply being engaged with the world makes you attractive and engaging. Nothing else, nothing more, nothing less!
And remember, to be sexy does not mean you are vulgar. It simply means you grown to a stage where your physical, mental and spiritual stages got connected to a higher level. And you have to know, that it will not come on its own. Work on it daily. Sexy is powerful!
Until next time, S.
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