I believe each and every one of us is insecure about something but I also believe learning how to tackle your insecurities can help you live a fruitful life. Living life to me, to the fullest means playing an active role in my own development. It means steering the wheel of my own live and taking advantage of my unique and powerful potential as person.
What about you? Have you ever felt insecure? I personally have so much success and potential on my side, yet there are days when my insecurities show up right in my face (trust me, yes - right in my face). And if you ever get nervous when someone even mentions the word ‘insecure’ , know that you are not alone! Rather learn how you can take your insecurities and use the basics of psychology to make them work for you not against you.
I know most people associate the word insecure with negative connotations and emotions. And the main reason why people do this is because deep down we all are a little bit insecure (in fact there is not a single person on the planet that is perfectly secure, fact ;)). Most people even think that insecurities hold no value when ironically they hold more value than we can ever imagine.
But what you can do to build better relationship with your insecurities?
1. Self love above all
Self love is not selfish, more - it is a prerequisite to happiness. Loving ourselves for who we are, in our imperfectly perfect state is the key and there is no doubt about it. Know what makes you feel loved and practice that everyday (start in front of the mirror each morning or by showing your body you do care, by workout, eating well, taking care of your body and soul, etc.). You can also start with daily affirmations. Really look at yourself in the mirror and affirm the things you really love about yourself. Once you start loving yourself, things will fall in to place alone.
2. Show gratitude
Emotions are never right or wrong, they simply exist (they do, even majority of people deny it). We always need some sort of emotion to function (and the end of the day we are all human beings, whereas physical appearance is mixed with full of emotions and cognitive processes). Treat each moment and each thought for its brilliance and be mindful and thankful for each and every emotion. Self kindness can help in overcoming insecurities and it all starts with self knowledge and then radical self acceptance. The more gratitude we give and show - the happier we feel. And there is no other wrap around it. Accept that is first step towards it.
3. Twist around your perspective
But first ask yourself, 'Can I see the insecurity with compassion and kindness?' When feeling troubled with insecurities, treat yourself as you would treat your best friend going through this same quandary. Do more of the things that make you feel good about yourself. Celebrate the sexiness, the dark side, the loud side, and the ambitious sexy person that you are. Praising yourself for the good but also acknowledging and living in awareness for the 'not so good' is also key to inner confidence.
4. Build healthy relationship with your ego
Let's face it, everyone has an ego, and the ego is not your enemy (healthy ego will help you become a better person, improve your overall development and protect your from the 'evil' out-there too). When we know who we are, we can consequently have a loving relationship with all parts of ourselves including the ego. Beside radical self acceptance is the path to overcoming the feeling of insecurity.
5. Know your worth
Accept that asking for approval from others for exactly what it is. We all seek approval and it is natural to be very aware about how others respond to us. Seek inner validation from yourself to reveal the best version of who you are. It starts with self knowledge and knowing who you really are as a divine creation having a human experience.
6. It is okay to feel insecure
However, it is also very important to recognise that the opinion of others can have both a positive and a negative effect on us. It connects us to people, and when validation is positive it can help us feel good about ourselves. But a negative remark can also leave us feeling insecure, isolated, and alone. Know the kind of energy you want in your life and create your own community of like-minded individuals.
7. Talk about it
Your insecurity is also a part of you, yet it is a story that is rarely told. Share your story and give voice to experiences that are all too common so that you no longer need to suffer in silence and feel the shame and stigma associated with being vulnerable. Your vulnerability is your greatest strength as it attracts soul connections. Just choose wisely when and/or to whom you 'serve' the story about yourself ;).
Knowing about our insecurities help the human brain make better decisions, however - always remember that our journey is not about being better than others. It is rather about saying goodbye to the conditioning of the world, which includes cultural, family, and even friend conditioning. This world has tried to keep us from being our most sexy and brilliant versions for far too long, especially now in these unpredictable times. Just remember ' No one is you and that is your power'.
Until next time, S.
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