To feel sexy is such a tricky achievement for most people, and women in particular seem to struggle to feel good about themselves and sexuality. That is a fact! But let's break through the wall. Below I will share some great tips (certainly on my list of daily chores) on how to feel good about yourself again and how to harness your sexuality as a woman.Some of them may seem very straightforward, to me, but they are very worth doing on a regular basis. Remember, the more you make feeling 'sexy' a habit, the more likely it is to become your natural state.
1. Show love to yourself
Many of you would now say, easier said than done, of course. But it is possible, trust me!
It is all about a state of being rather than an end destination, so do not expect a huge change overnight. Learning to love yourself takes a long time, but it is important to go through the motions and start getting used to the idea. To feel sexy again can take some time, but you can start with telling yourself you love yourself first.Compliment yourself on things you like about your mind, your personality and mainly to your overall your body image. Remember, whatever you like about yourself deserves to be celebrated, and you and you only are in a great position to do that. No one else can do it instead of you. Make is a routine in the morning and start each day reminding yourself how important and amazing you are. Look yourself in the mirror and acknowledge who you are and how are you feeling at that particular moment. Tell yourself you love yourself, respect yourself, and want to achieve amazing things. Once you will get used to hearing, you will start to believe it and feel better about yourself in every aspect of life.
2. Pamper day now and then
Treat yourself to nice things as this sure will leave you with the really good feeling (and you will feel valued somehow). Certainly something you should keep in your mind especially when you are close to each goal set. It can be something small (for instance I love taking a long bath and just enjoying the warm feeling of lying there ;), perhaps to cook your favourite breakfast and having a delicious, slow morning coffee, or facial, or just listening to a chill out music ;) Just something that warms you heart, slow you down and give you opportunity to listen to you inner voice :)
3. Workout daily
In my opinion, many people, women in particular, work out as a form of punishment or maintenance. This is something I simply do not understand! It is like 'hmm, I had carbs at lunch so I have to burn it off...' or, 'If I do not work out today, I will gain weight.' Really?
Let's put it this way. Daily exercise is amazing in so many more ways than weight loss and muscle growth. It releases endorphins which make us feel really good in all aspects of life. And the good thing about it is that lasts a surprisingly long time. So take your daily workouts as a positive lifestyle good for your mental health rather a form of punishment. Beside, with the regular physical activity you will also tune to your inner sexuality and mainly be satisfied with how much your body is capable of. The fact is that physical activity and the 'feeling good' factor go hand in hand and in the end of the day this is fundamental lead towards your self-respect and , yes, to feel sexy again!
4. Wear sexy lingerie
One of my favourites so far and you know what, wear sexy lingerie for yourself at first place, it is very intimate and to me it should stay this way. I love to wear sexy lingerie at all times. I even workout in my lingerie sometimes ;) And you know what - feels incredibly amazing and you should try it out too. And remember, your body is not made for parading in front of other people (but great if that makes you feel good), so get used to dressing for yourself and feeling good about it. ;)
5. 'Individuum' factor
Stop comparing yourself to other people, yes - say it out loud!! This is such an important one and is something that most of us are guilty of. Not me though. I know my worth and you should too!! Sure is far too easy to start thinking about what other people have in comparison to us, and why we are not as good as everyone else. Right? These can be physical comparisons, or based on our personalities and skills. But let me tell you, it is so pointless and yet all of us do it at some point! Ultimately, we will never feel confident and sexy if we are always telling ourselves we are ‘less’ than other people. Bear in mind, it is not going to happen straight away, but taking steps to end the comparisons we make is a big shift in the right direction. By actively focusing on not talking yourself down, you can start loving yourself the way you are. YES - remember that.
6. I am all down to candles and scents especially when the sun goes down
Candles just are sexy, no question about it. I am not arguing on this one. My way or now way here, trust me ;) Whatever kind of task you are doing, no matter how boring it is, candles will help you feel better about yourself. Candles in general just add a more exciting mood to a lot of normally boring activities. When it comes to candles, I sure am a master. Go for the scented ones (vanilla, lavender, patchouli, wooden scents ...hmmm, my favourites for sure) with some tiny tea lights along your mantelpiece, or a huge shiny one for the middle of your table. It is all about make it a ritual – maybe you light candles before having a hot bath or shower, maybe before you go to bed. To me it is a lifestyle and I do it create candle world every evening. It is something I cannot avoid no more. Link the candles to your mood, tune to the vibes candles bring and keep doing it. The outcomes are amazing. Beside the whole place will smell amazing too :) And do not forget about the 'jazzy' music in your background ;).
7. Relax and enjoy your time
Unwinding is a key part of feeling good about yourself and can help you get into the right frame of mind. One of the problems that a lot of us women face is feeling too stressed out to ‘get in the mood.’ It is hard to feel seductive when you are stressing about a thousand different things 'trust me I know). Get into the habit of winding down and having some time to just relax and enjoy being. This will help you find things you enjoy again (because a lot of us are guilty of being ‘too busy’ for hobbies/ trying new things) which will make you feel better in general. The fact is that when you feel relaxed and you are enjoying life more, you will find it easier to feel sexier – and to allow yourself the time to do so. Avoid stress as much as possible! Tune to the positive around instead.
8. Dance and sing
You might immediately be opposed to this one (and I used to be the same), but bear with me.
In the same way that exercise releases those lovely mood boosting endorphins, dancing and/or singing leaves your body and mind feeling amazing. Singing is something I do daily, beside music is just another 'happy' to me. Either way, you should try it out and be amazed with the positive outcome :).Either way (dancing or singing), get used to the feeling of moving to music and enjoying the sensuality in shaking your hips, your butt, your body. Feels good, I can bet on that ;).
9. Try something new
This does not need to be anything sexy to help you feel sexy, do not worry.The main thing here is that you are putting yourself out there and pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone. Yes, comfort zone is a killer! Whatever it is will make you feel so amazing once you have accomplished it. And if you are stuck for ideas, ask some friends for advice. I am sure they will be able to think of things they know you will enjoy, and probably go along with you too. Just keep it simple to achieve it and make it fun and sociable too. Not every step in your self-development journey needs to be on your own ;).
10. What about trying to list your favourite features?
I know, I know, you think really? This is super awkward, right? But trust me, it does not need to be as bad as you might have made it out to be in your head, though!
The whole point of doing this is to help you get more in touch with yourself, on every level.
This task is a way to spend more time on your own and evaluate who you are and what you like about yourself.That can be to do with your appearance if you want. Simply make a list of parts of your body you like, compliment yourself on your eyes, give yourself some credit for how well you dress ;) maybe? :) And do not forget about your personality and what you like about it.
And believe me or not, you will end up with a longer list than you might originally think, and you will have something to refer to when you are feeling down, Just keep the list close ;)
11. Flirting a little will not harm anyone
Now, this obviously depends on your relationship status as I am definitely not advocating cheating, beside I am already happily married ;) You can flirt with your partner or with a date if you are single. The aim of this is to get you feeling confident and comfortable. It is fun to flirt and play around a bit, so do not be afraid to be a bit silly or do something special. Flirting a little will only remind you of how fun and seductive you can be, which is always a good thing. Beside you will end up feeling desirable and exciting – and sexy too ;)
12. Naked around the house does wonders
Let's call this classic. If you have not done it yet, you should try it.You might not particularly like your body, and that is perfectly fine. Getting naked is all about getting used to yourself. That may sound crazy, but it works. It is our nature of human body (no one was born with the clothes on no? ;)). Beside, how often do you really tune in with yourself and how you feel and look and the way your body moves? Let me guess, rarely? So, let's put it straight - being naked is about spending time with your body, learning about it and mainly get to know what it looks like from different angles, how soft your skin is and how beautiful you are. Simply get used to what you look like naked because, believe me or not, it is a great state to live in ;).
In the end the more you know about yourself, acknowledge about yourself, and accept about yourself, the quicker you can start to see a shift and the quicker you will start to feel sexy again.
Until next time, S.
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